For those of you who may not know, I spent the majority of my twenties as a single girl. I look back on those years with no regrets, but with wonderful memories of learning about myself...and some rather hysterical memories of bad dates. I could probably be a contributor to the Slassy Life Blog with tales of the guys I encountered---like the time I dated a guy for about 3 weeks and I couldn't figure out if his name was Phil or Bill. After a handful of dates in which I tried relentlessly to sneak a peek at his driver’s license, credit cards, or anything that could secure the answer, I decided that he wasn’t my type and that at least two of the dates I went on were purely in attempt to solve the mystery. His name I eventually learned was Phil. Anyhow, traversing the waters of singledom comes with numerous pitfalls and hurdles.
At one point, I allowed my girlfriends to talk me into joining EHarmony- probably just for the entertaining stories they knew they could get out of me. I got a few more classic memories, including a guy who serenaded me with Gloria Estefan song and a bevy of other unbelievable moments.
I wonder how different it is to be single and visually impaired?
At one point, I allowed my girlfriends to talk me into joining EHarmony- probably just for the entertaining stories they knew they could get out of me. I got a few more classic memories, including a guy who serenaded me with Gloria Estefan song and a bevy of other unbelievable moments.
I wonder how different it is to be single and visually impaired?
(image of two people embraced in front of a heart)
In thinking about this, I came across this dating website for those with disabilities http://www.enabledating.com/?gclid=CMuG2LSTkqkCFaxk7Aodh15WpA. I did not get beyond the first page where it requires you to join, but from what I can tell the site claims to be a resource for meeting a wide variety of interesting people who happen to have disabilities. It’s not catered just for the blind and those with visual impairments. After searching for dating sites designed specifically for the visually impaired, I was disappointed that there weren’t more of them out there. Online dating must be an empowering option for the single population of the sight impaired, but without sites that cater offer the right options and tools I can imagine it would be difficult.
If you are or have been a single adult, how would the experience be different with a disability? Would you be inclined to date others who have the impairment? How would the establishment of trust be challenged? Would being sight impaired allow you to see people’s inner beauty rather than judging people on their looks?
If you are or have been a single adult, how would the experience be different with a disability? Would you be inclined to date others who have the impairment? How would the establishment of trust be challenged? Would being sight impaired allow you to see people’s inner beauty rather than judging people on their looks?
Phil here...remember me? ;) (Actually, it's Patti. The only way I can make comments is through an old blogger title...)
ReplyDeleteInsightful post! I think I'd like to think I'd have no barrier to love, but can I find love without going on that first date? And would I judge that first date too harshly? (I draw the line at toupees, long toenails, and at beards so thick and unruly I find little pieces of food here and there.)
One of the beautiful things about growing older with someone my own age is that by the time little hairs start sprouting out of his ears I won't even be able to see them. And he won't be able to see that I've got lipstick all over my face because I've missed my mouth altogether...I'll call him "honey" and he'll call me "the sweetest thing there ever was."
Phil...or should I say Patti :) Thank you so much for your beautiful insight!
ReplyDeleteYour description of growing old together was so eloquently put- and so sweet!
And for the record, I agree that long toenails and toupees are deal breakers for me too. Thankfully, my peers aren't quite ready for the toupee stage of their lives yet :)